I remember having a crush on a girl in high school and actually writing her a letter telling her how much I liked her and I wanted to go out with her. When I called her on the phone she laughed at me. That experience made me afraid to share my feelings with other girls for a while; I did not want to be embarrassed again. It is funny how one event can frame a person for a lifetime.
How many adventures, relationships, opportunities have you missed out on because you held on to a bad experience? Life is too short to allow the past to determine your future. I don’t want to be afraid of what will happen, I want to take the risk and follow my heart. I had to take a risk in asking other girls out in high school and college. In doing so, I took my power back. Fear does not want you to make choices or take risks, it wants you to sit on the sidelines worried about what could happen if you were in the “game.” We have to take our power back and don’t live a boring, regretful, worrisome life.
Now I am married to my best friend and it has been an adventure that I cherish. I am living not existing. I am going after what is in front of me not running from things anymore. Some may call it reckless but I call it exciting.
Take a risk, step out of your comfort zone and enjoy life.
We need a moment of silence.
In the busyness of the day we can fall into the trap of hurrying through all that we do. By the end of the day our face is stressed, our bodies are fatigued, and we are looking for the nearest couch to rest on while we allow the television to distract us from all that we experienced in the day. We don’t want to communicate with our children. We don’t want to talk to our spouse. We just want to be left alone to enjoy our evening in silence.
The problem that we encounter is we miss the most important time with our families because we don’t know how to handle the busyness that life presents to us daily. We don’t need to get away from our families we need to get out of being so busy. We need to relax and breathe in spite of what is going around us. We can then become an influence of peace to our surroundings.
I don’t like to rush through my day but sometimes I allow what is happening to get me to rush when I desire to relax. Yes, we have responsibilities that cause us to meet deadlines and be on time but no one likes a product that is half done we all want the best. Believe it or not but when you give your best people will wait for it.
When you have time it works for you not against you. Use the time you have to give your best. Take your moment of silence, breathe and relax for your best it is worth waiting for.
"If there is no door to your dream, create one."
One of the biggest obstacles to reaching our dreams is we don’t see a door. Many hope that their dreams come true but few actually believe they will. Most don’t realize that what they see when their eyes are closed is more real than what they see when they are open. If you truly want the dream to come true, simply believe the dream.
Your faith creates a door to a world full of things deemed impossible. Faith is more than just positive thinking it is seeing beyond sight. It is connecting with what is in you and not allowing what you see naturally to blind your spiritual vision. You are a powerful being and when you begin to connect with that power nothing will stop you from seeing your desires and dreams manifest in this world.
Q: What's the most important tip in this book?
A: The most important tip for me is to listen. I have to tell myself to listen all the time because it doesn't come naturally. Out of the 15 tips, Listen is three of them. It is very important that I hear not only my wife's words but her heart.
Q: Do you have to be married to relate to this book?
A: I believe that it will benefit men that are married most but the tips are universal. When the tips are applied they can help strengthen any relationship.
Q: How can Husband Rules help someone on the verge of divorce?
A: It depends on if he wants to be married. If he is willing to build again then Husband Rules can be a great building block. If your heart is not into being married, there is nothing this book or any marriage book can do for you. Husband Rules can transform your marriage if you are willing to open your heart and invest time into building a strong marriage.
Q: Husband Rules is so different from your other books. Why did you write this book?
A: I wrote Husband Rules for myself initially. I wanted to write a book that related to issues that I deal with. Reading marriage books is like reading about dieting. There is a lot of restriction, which works while you are on it, but the minute you are off you are in a worse state than before. I wrote Husband Rules so that men could incorporate the tips to change their perspective on marriage. I am tired of seeing us lose in marriage because we don't have the proper tools and perspective. If Husband Rules helps one husband not to quit on his marriage, it was well worth it.
Husband Rules is no different than my other books, the central focus is love. I feel when we see love, we change. I want men to realize the power of having a good marriage. To know that you have one person that will have your back unconditionally is priceless. As men, we can get caught up in trying to be successful that we ignore the gift of love in front of us. Husband Rules refocuses our vision to what truly is important; love. Why not invest our energy in something that will not depreciate? Writing the book was not easy. I had to confront many issues that were uncovered in the process. I had a lot to work on but I can say I am grateful to have went through the experience.
"The race is not given to the swift or the strong but the one who endures until the end."
Talent is a great thing to possess but talent alone will profit you little. Your talent has to be nurtured and challenged for you to really discover the depth of what you possess. Many people can start a marathon but not everyone is willing to see it through until the end. Being consistent is a quality that will take you beyond just finishing one marathon. It will take you to the highest level and help you realize your potential.
An important aspect of being consistent in what you love to do is, it eliminates the stress of trying to do it all at one time. No man can run across the United States of America in one day but if he consistently ran each day with focus and determination he would eventually get there. Why? Because he is not focused on the end, but rather the present challenge. Those that are consistent in life get things done. They may not be the most talented but they make up for it by having supreme focus for a short amount of time.
Being consistent allows you to enjoy the journey and appreciate the present. No longer burdened by the massive goal set before you. You reach for the small goal ahead of you. If you are overweight, going from 300 pounds to 180 pounds would seem almost impossible and if that is your focus, you will eventually quit when adversity comes. It is not about a quick fix, it is about being fully present in your now. It is about being better than you were yesterday. The weight (burdens) will be a distant memory through consistently striving to do better than you did before. One day you will be where you set out to go but still eager to go even further. Your consistency will take you beyond your goals to places you never imagined going.
“It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It's what we do consistently.” - Anthony Robbins
“Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.” - Jim Rohn