Q: What's the most important tip in this book?
A: The most important tip for me is to listen. I have to tell myself to listen all the time because it doesn't come naturally. Out of the 15 tips, Listen is three of them. It is very important that I hear not only my wife's words but her heart.
Q: Do you have to be married to relate to this book?
A: I believe that it will benefit men that are married most but the tips are universal. When the tips are applied they can help strengthen any relationship.
Q: How can Husband Rules help someone on the verge of divorce?
A: It depends on if he wants to be married. If he is willing to build again then Husband Rules can be a great building block. If your heart is not into being married, there is nothing this book or any marriage book can do for you. Husband Rules can transform your marriage if you are willing to open your heart and invest time into building a strong marriage.
Q: Husband Rules is so different from your other books. Why did you write this book?
A: I wrote Husband Rules for myself initially. I wanted to write a book that related to issues that I deal with. Reading marriage books is like reading about dieting. There is a lot of restriction, which works while you are on it, but the minute you are off you are in a worse state than before. I wrote Husband Rules so that men could incorporate the tips to change their perspective on marriage. I am tired of seeing us lose in marriage because we don't have the proper tools and perspective. If Husband Rules helps one husband not to quit on his marriage, it was well worth it.
Husband Rules is no different than my other books, the central focus is love. I feel when we see love, we change. I want men to realize the power of having a good marriage. To know that you have one person that will have your back unconditionally is priceless. As men, we can get caught up in trying to be successful that we ignore the gift of love in front of us. Husband Rules refocuses our vision to what truly is important; love. Why not invest our energy in something that will not depreciate? Writing the book was not easy. I had to confront many issues that were uncovered in the process. I had a lot to work on but I can say I am grateful to have gone through the experience.
Q: Anything else you would like to add?
I don’t have all the answers. I am not the perfect husband and I am not trying to be. I just want to love the woman that makes me happy. I want to give her the best me. Just like in sports, you learn the plays then you practice them. Through practice, you learn how to execute and master them. When I got married I did not have a playbook. I was a 20 years old learning how to be a husband on the fly. Through the years I picked up some plays that have helped me in my marriage. That is what I share in this book.